Larry Benson Live

One of the advantages that comes with a certain age is that you start to get some perspective on things and start to really understand how those things have worked in your life.  Recently I have started to see the results of stress in my life and on my body and I don’t much care for it but at the same time it is a revelation that it is really affecting me the way it is.

There are other things too that I have realized in my life that were not always evident to me. For instance, I see how counterproductive getting emotionally upset is. There was a time when I would have not known that and participated in it to a great degree but now it is different. It’s different not that I never get upset any longer it’s just now that I recognize how useless it really is and I have begun to try to take steps to change that. (continue reading…)

I’m thinking of starting a new business from home. I really would like to create something on my own that could eventually support myself and my family. I have skills with computers and I think probably that would be the wisest thing for me to do. As it seems to be my strongest skill set outside of middle management.

I think I can probably start part time and operate from my home without any extra space or expense. I have the tools both software and of course the hardware tools to do what I need to do so with the upstart cost should be relatively inexpensive as I think I can do the advertising locally with accommodation of word-of-mouth and flyers.

My intention is to offer a service that will optimize the persons computer. By that I mean if they’re having trouble with their computer, I can go in and clean it up and change settings to in effect give them a system that operates similar to what it did when it was new. That would be a great service to many people I know because most people that have computers really don’t know how to maintain them or even that you need to maintain a computer. They get away with not doing so because they don’t really use them all that much.

I’ll come up with some sort of catchy little phrase to use on my flyers and business cards and then start spreading the word to friends and associates in the area. We live in a town of about 15,000 so shouldn’t be that hard to get the word out and currently there is no one else in town that offers the sort of service to the community. I can even volunteer to maintain the computers at my church and possibly even for some local service organizations to help get the word out.

Think about it, if a local service organization has membership of say 200 people and I go in and offer to optimize five peoples computers as some sort of give away. I’ll get a lot of advertising for free. And to be honest the service doesn’t take me that much work to do. I’ve been doing it on my own computer for years and have honed the skill to the point where I could probably do it in a couple of hours.

I can even solicit the help of my children to put up flyers and maybe even offer flyers to their friends at school. My mind starts to race as I think about all the ways that I could get the word out and I know there are plenty of people that need this service. I suppose at this point I need to sit down with pencil and paper to figure out if I could really make a living at it and if so how many computers do I need to do a week and what percentage of the population I would need to be my customer base. This is quite exciting I think I’ll quit writing for now and go to do some figuring on my new business.

My kids are off to camp soon and it will be a relief to have them gone for a little while and give my wife and I a little break from being parents all the time 24/7. Don’t get me wrong it’s not that I don’t love my children I do I just sometimes get a little weary of being a parent all the time. I know my wife sometimes to the delivery even though she’s a full-time stay-at-home mom. It can be wearing when you have teenagers at home and the constant demands of guiding these young adults.

I’m glad the kids are going to because it gives them a break from being our kids for a little while they can get a different perspective on authority and besides they don’t have to do the chores. Speaking of chores, that is a major issue around our home. The kids have been taught from an early age to do chores every day. We felt like it would build a responsibility in them and train them to be disciplined at least to some degree.

When I was a child we had chores that we had to do every day, but I don’t remember it being such a problem getting my sister and I to do them. What I remember is that we pretty much did them without being told. But then again that was a long time ago and we all know how selective our memory can be. I probably need to talk to my mom and find out her recollection.

Another was one thing in particular that I didn’t especially like doing and that was mowing the yard. We had a big yard, about 5 acres, and even though we had a riding lawnmower I pretty much detested the thought that I was in have to spend about four hours riding that thing around. I have been told that my sister did more of that than I did but I’m not really sure how I got out of it I just don’t remember.

I suppose that’s part of growing up so, we remember what we want to do what serves our purposes and we tend to forget everything else. That way we can shape who we are what we are in a fashion that pleases us and is conducive to the goals and aspirations that we have as adults. I hope my kids someday remember the good parts and forget the bad ones because God knows I’m not the best parent in the world even though I have really good intentions.

I was thinking today about the ironic nature of human behavior and how it seems to calm in waves. Let me see if I can explain what I’m talking about. One of the things that I do is raise Yorkeis. And we recently had a litter that was up for adoption. We placed an ad in the paper after we had sold three of the four puppies to people on our waiting list. The ad was in the paper for one day and I got about 25 calls with interest in the puppy. Now, here comes the ironic part.

Not one of those people that called me on that first day made it out to see the puppy. And it was a Sunday. But the next day and here’s that right part, I had three different women desperately wanting to adopt the puppy. My question is, what made the difference, why is it that 25 people called me on Sunday and no one came out to see the dog but on Monday three people called in all of them desperately wanted to adopt the dog won even without seeing it?

Now do you understand what I’m getting at. Why is it that we as humans are so patterned in our behavior? It’s almost as if there’s some sort of communication going on in the group that’s not even related that causes them to act in similar ways. There are some people that believe we do indicate over long distances and without physical apparatus. These sorts of things that I just described would lend itself to that theory.

I bet almost everyone that reads this post has had something very similar happened to them. We may she want to stand back and scratch your head and say, why. I even wondered if it had anything to do with the way that I talked to people on Sunday may be there was something in my voice or the words that I chose that caused them not to be interested in the puppy but then on Monday maybe my attitude or words or expressions changed and does it change their reaction to me.

I suppose it’s one of those things that we will have to take a few more years to investigate someone will have to get a grant to do some research and after a while we’ll figure it out and say wow what a nice think of that before? What are a lot of things like that in life and usually ends up with some sort of head scratching behavior by those of us that didn’t think of that before.

Well within a team of when I posted last as expected lots of drama around our home here in the Midwest. My daughter hurt her knee in swimming, my son has a new girlfriend that he denies, and my wife missed her medication so she is well a little dramatic to say. So I guess you could say things are quite normal around our house will.

The truth is I think I probably signed up for this. I kind of knew it was going to be like this and there was a part of me that wanted it. You know what’s weird is that when it all started dating my wife there was a part way deep down inside that was quite excited by all the drama. You see I was brought up in a home that was very quiet and non dramatic. We never raised our voices for much of any reason and we thought most all of our actions through before we took the first step.

On the other hand my wife’s family over dramatize as everything and when I say everything I mean everything! It doesn’t matter what it is they get excited about it and their voices raise for no reason at all at least that’s my take on the whole point. So day in and day out we have this battle. I say calm down, she gets excited or more accurately it’s the other way around. She gets excited and I say calm down and around and around and round in a circle we go.

Finding a happy medium in this home has been a lifelong task. Don’t get me wrong I’m not complaining really, I love my wife dearly but I would like her to relax a little bit and not be quite so excited about everything that happens. I like peace and quiet she likes noise I hate the TV she loves the TV. She loves to go shopping I hate to go shopping. If it were up to me I would never set foot in another mall. I hate shopping. Oh and another thing I hate driving. I like to drive anywhere. Now walking that’s another thing I do enjoy a walk. Cannot take a walk just about anywhere even if it’s to the store or to pay a bill if I can I’ll walk.

So you see the drama and the dilemma that I find myself in one of my own choosing and one that I choose to stay in because somewhere deep down inside I think this drama kind of excites me and I live I carry sleep through it. Isn’t that funny about how life is? We choose the things that are unlike us because they’re different.

I thought the writing for this blog would be much easier than it turned out to be. When faced with the reality of having to write something that the whole world going to see a sort of froze up. I want to make the right impression I want to say something profound but those thoughts just don’t seem to come to mind at least not yet.

I guess I should not be so hard on myself as this is really only the second post I’ve written. I mean it’s not like I’ve been writing for years or anything like that. Besides as far as I know I’m probably the only one reading this at least for the moment.

Finding your way around the blogosphere can be a bit confusing to someone that doesn’t have that much experience, like myself. I have learned that most of the bloggers that have the sort of blog at least find their inspiration from everyday life. That should make writing a whole lot easier as far as I’m concerned because my life can be quite colorful at times. With two kids and five dogs and a wife things are never calm.

We have had adventures like you would not believe since we have been together so I should have plenty of material over the next bit of time. I may intersperse that sort of post with many others as I really don’t know what direction we are going to go but it should be a lot of fun. At least for me.

First of all, I have been in management for years and have worked for several companies and have never really been fulfilled in my job but it pays the bills at least we live in the Midwest United States and have for all our lives. My wife is from the same area as I am but we did not know each other until we were out of school and had our own lives.

Well, that is enough for now, we can continue this next time.